Teens and Sex


by Michael Gilbert

It’s easy to think that all teens are wild and reckless, rebellious and unruly, lascivious and lustful…but this is not the case!

Most teens appreciate the good, positive teachings of their parents, especially in regard to sex. In fact, a growing number of teens are becoming tired of the silly and sinful “Desperate Housewives”mentality of the world, and are searching for God’s ideal for their sexuality.

Parents, don’t be deceived into thinking your kids won’t listen to you. Fathers, please don’t lose faith in Paul’s instruction to, “…provoke not your children unto wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Eph. 6:4). In this text, Paul doesn’t say it will be easy to train your children, neither does he say that the training will be received “without a fight”. But whatever difficulty you face in rearing your children, trust God, believing that when you “bring them up” it is far better than letting the world “bring them up”, especially in regard to the matter of their sexuality.

What are some positive, godly ideas about sex that you can instill within your child’s heart?

Teach your children that there is freedom in submitting to God in sexual matters. How so? Just consider the following items, and then pass them along to your kids…

Freedoms of Sexual Abstinence

  • Freedom from the physical dangers of multiple partner sex: sexually transmitted diseases, cancer of the cervix, and unwanted pregnancy (Prov. 5:11).

  • Freedom from the problems of birth control: the pill and its side effects, the IUD and its risks.

  • Freedom from the pressure to marry too soon (Gen. 2:24; Song of Solomon).

  • Freedom from the pain of giving your baby up for adoption.

  • Freedom from the little discussed, but often unbearable psychological pain of murdering an unborn baby (Prov. 6:17).

  • Freedom from exploiting others or being exploited by others and all the emotions that come with it—guilt, doubt, worry, disappointment, anger, and rejection (2 Sam. 13).

  • Freedom to be in control of your body (1 Cor. 9:27).

  • Freedom to get to know your dating partner as a person (Song of Solomon).

  • Freedom to be in control of your life and your future—not to have it disrupted by pregnancy or disease (Prov. 5:9).

  • Freedom to respect yourself (Gen. 1:26).

  • Freedom to look forward to marriage and not be haunted by the “ghosts” of past sexual relationships.

  • Freedom to enjoy being a teenager, with many boy-girl relationships (Prov. 17:17).

  • Freedom to form a strong marriage bond with one person for a lifetime—in other words, abstinence before marriage leads to greater trust, commitment, and faithfulness in marriage. (Gen. 2:24)1

  • Freedom to enjoy Heaven!

May God richly bless your efforts to bring your children up to know God’s will regarding human sexuality!


1. http://www.realchoices.com/freedoms.html.


About dekalbcoc

Local preacher for the DeKalb Church of Christ
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