Michael Gilbert (adapted)
Last week we looked at “12 Signs of a BAD Boyfriend/Girlfriend” – this week we will “flip it over” and look at “12 Signs of a GOOD Boyfriend/Girlfriend”. I hope this helps our young people as they choose who to “date” and who to marry. It is so easy to get tangled up with the wrong person. Choosing the right spouse greatly influences our happiness in this life, and our eternal destiny in the next. Know that Elizabeth and I are praying for all of our teens in regard to who they date, and who they eventually marry. We are praying for J.M. as well! I hope you will keep this article through your dating years, and I pray that you will find that special person who will help you go to heaven! Go home, look up the Scriptures for each point, and seriously consider what is said. Don’t forget to ask God to help you choose your mate!
1. If he/she is a faithful Christian – you are off to a good start (Gen. 6:1-2).
2. If your intended watches his/her language, especially in regard to what is said about other people – this is commendable (James 3:9-10; Eph. 5:4).
3. Look closely at your loved one’s credit and job history. They are sure predictors of what your life will be like if you marry this person (Rom. 13:8; Col. 3:22-23).
4. If your loved one comes from a family of faithful Christians – he/she is more than likely a “good catch” (Gen. 18:19).
5. If the person you are dating hangs around other Christians – he/she realizes the importance of good associations – this is a good sign (Acts 2:44; 1 Cor. 15:33).
6. If your boyfriend/girlfriend does not equate “love” with pre-marital sex, then he/she has a good understanding of God’s will regarding sex (Gen. 2:24, Heb. 13:4, 1 Cor. 7:2-5).
7. Investigate the moral, social, and political views of the one you are dating – if the teaching of the Bible has shaped his/her views, this is a big plus (Eph. 5:1-5, 1 Cor. 15:33, Micah 3:1-3).
8. If he/she respects authority (parents, teachers, police officers, judges, etc), this person should be treasured (2 Pet. 2:9-11).
9. If your “sweetie” doesn’t try to change you – latch on to him/her (Rom. 12:1-2).
10. If the boy or girl you date refuses to miss a worship service – they are probably worth marrying (Heb. 10:25).
11. If your loved one respects his/her parents, they are “a cut above” the rest (Eph. 6:2).
12. If “divorce” is not an option with your boyfriend/girlfriend, they have been taught well. You will probably have a great, life-long relationship (Gen. 2:24; Mt. 19:1-9).